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Learning To Flirt: Steps To Success

Flirting is a process. It takes a bit of learning, which well provide you here. Consider these steps for successful flirting on your part. Youll also be able to recognize easier when others are flirting with you!

Step 1: Learn About The Girl
Because flirting is an individual situation where two very different people must find some parallel to get to know each other, the first step must be to learn all that you can about the girl that you are planning to flirt with.

This means learning different aspects of what makes her happy and what will impress here.

For example, if you are interested in talking to a girl that is very traditional and loves romance, flirting with her may mean flowers or even a sweet poem that you write just for her.

One the other hand, if shes more of a modernized woman, she may not find this type of treatment entertaining at all. She may find flowers boring. Instead, she may like it if you buy her a drink or even invite her for coffee before work one day.

The only way for you to know what will work for the girl is to learn as much about her as you can. The facts are simple: the more you know, the easier it will be to tailor the type of flirting you do so it will work in your favor.

What facts can you gather about her? What does she enjoy doing? What do you know about her from friends? Do you know about the types of activities she enjoys? If not, you can often gauge a lot about a person through their clothing and the way that they talk and act.

Gather as much information about her as possible.

Step 2: Take It Easy
Its easy to gather information and stay back from the scene, but remember that you do need to approach her at some point to get to know her. Once you feel like you have gathered the amount of information that you need, you can then develop a method of flirting with her.

Slow and steady is important. Start by just making sure she knows who you are and where you are. You want to make sure that she knows that you are alive. You can do this simply, just by making your presence known in the situation that you are in.

Your goal is to go from the guy she may have seen someplace before to the guy that she has seen around several times.

If you move too quickly here and simply jump at her with all the lines youve prepared, youll scare her or make her nervous. Instead, you want to come off as a natural part of her life, someone that would blend right in with the way that shes living her life now.

The best way to get to know her at this point, then, is as simple as saying, hi. Thats it, just hi. This will let her know that you are there, but that you are just an average guy thats being polite. Even more so, it may spark her interest in you, too.

A short and sweet conversation is the idea at first. Later, youll do more to meet her. Each time that you see her (which you should make a point to seeing her) do the same thing. After doing this several times, you can easily benefit from the current situation.

Now, she even expects you to say hi to her.

Now, shes waiting for a few seconds that shell be able to talk to you.

And, she may even be hoping that youll say something more. You remain calm and collected, as if you have many other things going on in your life. Eventually, youll start a small conversation with her.

At this point, shes more relaxed and so are you. Youll even feel less worried or scared about it.

Step 3: Flirt With Her
Now, its time to flirt with her to let her know that you are interested in her.

As you are talking to her, you want to flirt with her in a unique way, perhaps in the way that you have determined is the way that shell appreciate it. Flirting with a girl is a great way for her to actually know that you like her or are just interested in learning more about her.

Every woman, and man for that matter, wants to feel important and valued and this is the ideal time to make sure that she knows that.

When flirting with a girl, make sure that she knows that you value her. Give her the feeling that you value her, without actually saying those words. Youll have to be a bit creative here, especially at first, but soon youll learn exactly how easy it can be to enjoy flirting with her or any other girl you want to get to know.

Techniques To Use

Here are some flirting techniques that arent too cheesy but that really do work in a number of different situations. Choose those that you know will impress and ignite her curiosity about you.

Use a bit of humor to get things started, but dont be rude or otherwise negative in that humor. For example, dont say, Did you see that guy with the overalls and the full beer belly? Instead, say something humorous but positive. Joking about your own behavior is a great way to start. I thought for sure I was going to make a fool out of myself. Make her smile, and make her laugh!

Be sweet. Youve heard the saying that sugar is a better lure? It works here too. Be sweet to her. Use compliments about the way that she looks; hold open doors, been sweet in the words that you say to her. You can over do this to the point that she will become annoyed with you. Thats not what you want! Small, simple gestures make all of the difference.

Be her friend, but only a bit. The last thing that you want to do is to ask her for coffee only to spend the next three hours listening to her talk about her boyfriend or her ex. Thats not what you want. Nevertheless, you should be a distant friend, just not her confidant. Of course, being a friend does mean being open to her. If you let the situation progress to where she sees you as a friend instead of as a boyfriend, chances are good that youll never pull out of that situation.

You wont look like a dork! Many guys refrain from doing what feels natural, such as holding her hand or opening a car door for her for fear that they will look like a dork to her. Thats not anywhere near the case as shell be impressed that you thought of her. Dont feel like you are a dork if you want to make her laugh or you feel the need to say something stupid.

Step 4: The All Important Touch
One of the most important ways to flirt with a girl is to touch her. It is never appropriate to touch her in any seductive way unless you have moved into that part of the relationship (which is no where near this point!) But, a touch doesnt have to be about sexual urges. But, it is one of the most powerful ways that you can show your interest and spark hers for you, too.

The touch is a very complicated process right? After all, how are you supposed to get your hand to touch her skin? Instincts will kick in for you, we promise. Youll know that its okay to make your move and experience will also help.

How can you touch her? Theres no need to actually have a huge box of popcorn during the movie and to hope that your hands meet. Instead, look for other ways to touch her.

Perhaps a strain of hair has fallen into her face as you have been talking to her. Gently move it to the side so that you can see her face.

Perhaps you want to show her that you would like to get to know her even though you just met her. If her had is on the bar, for example, touch it lightly with your own hand to get her attention. Dont move it away too fast.

As you walk out of the location, you can easily open a door for her and brush her hand with your own. You can easily take a glass from her hand and touch her skin with your own.

Other ways for you to flirt with her through touch include: a pat on the shoulder or her back, a hug goodbye, instead of a kiss, an invitation to thumb wrestle with you!

These things are very simple and thats the point. You want to motivate her to enjoy being touched by you even in this slight way. This method of flirting is one that will have her begging for more attention from you.

When you touch someone, you are being a very small bit intimate with that person. This intimacy will later grow into an attraction that will bring the two of you together. Whats more it will create a link between the two of you.

Step 5: Know The Nos
There are plenty of situations that qualify as just dont do it situations. By knowing what you should not be doing, youll be well on your way to empowering yourself farther without taking steps backward.

Here are some donts to know about:

Dont be too macho or too arrogant. Dont assume that you have the right to touch her if she doesnt enjoy it.
Dont touch her in any way that is provocative. If you touch her chest, your backside or her leg, you arent talking about getting to know her. You are talking about wanting to do more with her. Thats a definite drawback for most girls.
Dont call her too often. Once you get her phone number, you dont want to make yourself look desperate by calling her several times. Call her once, leave her a message. If she doesnt call you back, call her one more time and invite her to call you for dinner next weekend.
Dont over do it in the friend department. As we revealed, this is not where you want to be.
Dont say anything that could be insulting to her. You dont want to say anything negative about her to anyone especially when you are talking to those that know her.
Dont lie or make yourself look like more than you are. Even if the agree to see you, once they learn that you arent who you say you are, theyll walk away. They will do this because you lied to them, not because you dont have what they want. 99 percent of girls are interested in guys that are like them.
Dont talk about other girls, ever. Just dont. And, dont let her see you looking at another girl across the room. This is an instant way to lose her once and for all.

There seems to be many things that you shouldnt do. The fact is that you can rule all of these out when you simply act like yourself and be respectful of the girl that you are interested in getting to know. Thats all it takes to flirt with a girl!