Skill Get Women

Chapter 2: A Lack Of Confidence Got You Down?


For 80 percent of men, the largest problem they face in meeting women is not the way that they look, the money that they have or the lack of a cheesy pick up line. It is a lack of confidence. Confidence gives you the ability to make that first move. It also exudes from you which mean that a woman is attracted to it.

Confidence alone is one of the most desirable methods for attracting women. A confident man is likely to meet many more women. Are you confident, then?

A confident man is realized in the way that he interacts with people, in the way that he presents himself as well as in his ability to portray himself as a masculine but genuine man.

How can you be a confident man? There are several key things that you should attempt to learn and fold into the process.

Determine what your fear is.
Fear is a powerful emotion thats limiting you.
Overcome your fear by forcing yourself to do whatever it is.
By overcoming your fear, you actually gain confidence that is irreplaceable.

To take this simply designed plan into account, you will gain confidence through conquering a fear. It does not have to be the fear of talking to a woman, either. Start out by determining a fear that is easier for you to conquer.

No matter what fear you tackle, the goal is simple. Give yourself a foundation of confidence, even a weak one at first. By conquering some fear that you have, you can build upon this small amount of confidence and later tackle a larger fear.

Once you have overcome some small fear, next, test the waters by conquering your fear of talking to women. The first time you head out to do this, give yourself some rehearsal. Plan what you will say, even rehearse the lines beforehand if it offers a bit of help to you.

Next, approach a girl, but pick one that you are more comfortable with rather than the one girl that you really want to talk to. Approach her and simple say, Hi, Im Adam. How are you? This simple approach will give you a huge boost in the confidence department. Even if she doesnt talk to you, you got the words out. Try to work up to a level where you are really talking to someone and the conversation is going well.

Once you get the conversation to a good, positive point, excuse yourself. Leave on a high note. If you arent attracted to her, theres no need to worry about asking for a phone number.

Since you left on a high note, you are now more prepared than ever to talk with the girl that youve been too worried to talk to. You have more confidence and feel better about it simply because you have overcome this fear. You forced yourself to talk to a girl and now you feel amazingly confident and can make your next move.

You may be thinking to yourself, I just cant do it. The fact is that most men go through this. They feel like they cant take that first step. Yet, you have to make a decision here. Do you want to spend the rest of your life alone or will you get over your fear and simply walk up and start talking to her?

If you do it, if you say, Forget this, Im doing it youll overcome your fear, gain confidence and all of the anxiety that goes with the fear will be gone, just like that.

When you push yourself to that moment when you are very close to turning around and saying forget it, you gain benefits ultimately. You gain the benefit of confidence.

Once you get through your first fear conquering step, take a step back and ask yourself a few questions. For example, do you feel that you were successful in talking to her? What could you have done differently? Perhaps you did all that you need to and now you feel good about the whole situation?

Step back, analyze and make changes as necessary. Then, approach another girl and start the process over. Dont wait too long between talking to one girl and talking to the next, as this lowers your confidence level again. Just like after a big game thats one, the team is better prepared to win the following game when momentum is high. Take advantage of this.